Light candle Oct. 15 to observe pregnancy loss

'Do you have kids?” It seems like a simple question, but for many it is difficult to answer. We've lost two babies, both in the second trimester of pregnancy - our beautiful daughter and our precious son. We will never see their smiles, hear their giggles or dry their tears. So when asked if we have children, the answer is not easy.

Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day is Oct. 15. All over the world, people are encouraged to light a candle at 7 p.m. For more information, visit www.october15th.com.

If you know that someone has lost a pregnancy, be helpful by recognizing the significance of losing a baby. A simple acknowledgment such as 'I'm so sorry for your loss” is so appreciated. By being aware that pregnancy loss is common, you can be helpful simply by being sensitive to how you approach this subject.

Many people who have not experienced such a loss may not realize that a period of grieving is necessary. For some, the grief is a public and lengthy experience. Others may grieve in silence.

If you have experienced pregnancy or infant loss, do not expect to be 'over it” within any specific time. Grief has no absolutes.

Join us in lighting a candle on Oct. 15 in support of families who have been affected by pregnancy and infant loss and also to raise awareness of this all too common, yet often unspoken heartbreak.

Amy and Barry A'Hearn

North Liberty